Friends and friendships
I don't mean to compare them with relationships, because they're completely different beasts. Friendships are in a league of their own. Good friends can support you in situations you'd rather not have your family involved. They can also hold you back when you're changing.
Now, me, I'm somewhat of a specialist in change.
It will probably still hurt and resistance is always in order, but I've changed so much over the course of my life that I just can't imagine myself stuck in a situation I know I need to get out of. I don't even complain about whether I'm changing or not anymore. I know I'm gonna take the leap sooner or later.
Some friends - the rare type - will actually help you go through the process of change, whatever it is. Learning a language is one such example: changing from not understanding it to full comprehension; more specifically, turning it into a non-issue. The efforts required to learn a foreign language are just the same you take when you're changing the way you live. It's 5% intelligence and 95% consistency.
Friends, being in an intermediate position between true family and mere colleagues, can get in the way of efforts you're undertaking in order to change yourself. Usually, whatever resistance you get from yourself will also be thrown at you by your friends. It's not their fault, but a reflex. They're just used to the old you. They don't know I they'll like the new you. Heck, maybe the new you ends up in jail, and that's no fun.
The best friend one can possibily have is the friend that's willing to assist his friend through whatever might come, even if that means he might end up losing the friendship in the end. Would you trap someone in a cage to keep him close? Simple choice, really.
Now, me, I'm somewhat of a specialist in change.
It will probably still hurt and resistance is always in order, but I've changed so much over the course of my life that I just can't imagine myself stuck in a situation I know I need to get out of. I don't even complain about whether I'm changing or not anymore. I know I'm gonna take the leap sooner or later.
Some friends - the rare type - will actually help you go through the process of change, whatever it is. Learning a language is one such example: changing from not understanding it to full comprehension; more specifically, turning it into a non-issue. The efforts required to learn a foreign language are just the same you take when you're changing the way you live. It's 5% intelligence and 95% consistency.
Friends, being in an intermediate position between true family and mere colleagues, can get in the way of efforts you're undertaking in order to change yourself. Usually, whatever resistance you get from yourself will also be thrown at you by your friends. It's not their fault, but a reflex. They're just used to the old you. They don't know I they'll like the new you. Heck, maybe the new you ends up in jail, and that's no fun.
The best friend one can possibily have is the friend that's willing to assist his friend through whatever might come, even if that means he might end up losing the friendship in the end. Would you trap someone in a cage to keep him close? Simple choice, really.
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